Adultery

Adultery is condemned by religious and non-religious people alike. The obvious problem with adultery is that it causes pain to the betrayed party or parties. In this respect, adultery goes against the Jesus Ethics. 

But what about things like polyamory, swinging, wife swapping, and other "consensual" forms of sex outside the marriage bond? We even have Christian polyamorists, calling themselves "Liberated Christians". These folk claim that no one gets hurt as both parties agree to have "responsible" extramarital sexual affairs. If they really believe those claims, good luck to them. According to the Jesus Ethics, adults are free to do whatever they want in their sex lives as long as they don't hurt others. Anyway, in these few cases, it can perhaps be argued that the terms adultery, cheating & unfaithfulness do not apply (but what sort of marriage vows do polyamorists take?), since no party is cheated upon. Or is it?

But we are not worried about the polyamorists. They are a negligible minority, a statistical anomaly if you want.

No, we only worry about those cases where adultery causes pain, trauma and numerous ugly divorces (as for those long-separated or divorced people re-marrying see: Marriage and Divorce ). 

Unless you are an emotional mutant (ie. polyamorist) it really hurts being cheated by your spouse or partner. It breaks your heart. It is the most difficult thing to forgive, and even if you do forgive, you never forget. This is how most people affected by adultery/unfaithfulness see it anyway.

So there you have it. Adultery (or Unfaithfulness ) is wrong.

It would be good if adultery didn't happen at all.

But adultery happens. It is a very common problem. Many marriages and families have been destroyed because of adultery and a lot of people are being hurt. 

The links and articles that follow ( source: www.mentalhelp.net ) may be of benefit to people facing marital problems including adultery:

More Links & Articles:

Overcoming Extramarital Infatuation
Nine affirmations to help you stay the course.
By Hugh and Gayle Prather

Forgiving Infidelity
How can I forgive my husband's brief affair?
By Hugh and Gayle Prather

The Flesh is Weak
Why affairs are like cheesecake.
By Lauren F. Winner

Disciplining an Adulterer
After my extramarital affair was discovered, God's tough love allowed me to get back another love--my husband's.
By Lorrie Wilson

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